Realizations that made life easier this year.
- I don’t have to want what society tells me that people it thinks I’m like should want.
- It sucked being young, thin, and “pretty/passing” and while it is tiring being middle aged, fat, and disabled, a lot of things are actually BETTER this way. I haven’t been sexually assaulted in years! I still have a good relationship with someone who respects my boundaries!
- I’m happier if I focus on the things I’m good at. (Writing)
- This shit is genuinely difficult and I’m handling it as well as any reasonable person would, better in some cases.
- Anxiety and depression are actually reasonable responses to scary, sad stuff, and I don’t need to make life harder by being mad at myself for experiencing them.
- I have a lived experience as someone the world constantly pushed into the “woman” box. And that experience is valid. I also have the lived experience of someone who doesn’t fit society’s box very well, and that’s valid too.
- I don’t have to want to find the “right box” when I what I want is to be boxless.
- I’m happier when I’m wearing comfortable clothing that fits me
- There aren’t a lot of things I can do to help the fact that my hair is thinning, but I can clip it close so I don’t have to spend a lot of spoons on it, and coloring it vivid blues and purples makes me happy and stops people from assuming I have cancer. (I don’t.)
- There is literally nothing in this world that makes me happier than helping people understand how to love their kids better.
