Realizations that made life easier this year.

  1. I don’t have to want what society tells me that people it thinks I’m like should want.
  2. It sucked being young, thin, and “pretty/passing” and while it is tiring being middle aged, fat, and disabled, a lot of things are actually BETTER this way. I haven’t been sexually assaulted in years! I still have a good relationship with someone who respects my boundaries!
  3. I’m happier if I focus on the things I’m good at. (Writing)
  4. This shit is genuinely difficult and I’m handling it as well as any reasonable person would, better in some cases.
  5. Anxiety and depression are actually reasonable responses to scary, sad stuff, and I don’t need to make life harder by being mad at myself for experiencing them.
  6. I have a lived experience as someone the world constantly pushed into the “woman” box. And that experience is valid. I also have the lived experience of someone who doesn’t fit society’s box very well, and that’s valid too.
  7. I don’t have to want to find the “right box” when I what I want is to be boxless.
  8. I’m happier when I’m wearing comfortable clothing that fits me
  9. There aren’t a lot of things I can do to help the fact that my hair is thinning, but I can clip it close so I don’t have to spend a lot of spoons on it, and coloring it vivid blues and purples makes me happy and stops people from assuming I have cancer. (I don’t.)
  10. There is literally nothing in this world that makes me happier than helping people understand how to love their kids better.
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